On the Cultivating the Lovely podcast this week, MacKenzie Koppa interviews Melanie Shankle, co-host of The Big Boo Cast and author of several books, including her newest title On the Bright Side. Together MacKenzie and Melanie talk the new book, podcasting, skin care and more! (Amazon affiliate links are used in this content.)

• MacKenzie shares how she first heard about Melanie and what she loves so much about her podcast
• Melanie and MacKenzie do a little breakdown of their Outlander addiction and the new season
• Melanie talks a little about her book On the Bright Side and why it needed to be written
• Returning to a culture of civility and being kind to others with opposing views

We’ve lost sight of what matters most. We’ve forgotten how to be decent human beings. We’ve lost the art of looking on the bright side.

Melanie Shankle

• The importance of finding a few friends who can be your tribe
• Watching out for comparison and insecurity in friendship
• Trusting God with our own lives and with our children, as well
• Guiding our children through disappointment and helping them learning from failure
• Melanie and MacKenzie talk all about skincare
  • Paula’s Choice Vitamin C Serum
  • Drunk Elephant Protini Polypeptide Cream
• Melanie’s current typical daily routine

Current Lovelies-

Melanie: knowing when to say “no” to things and making the most of her daughter’s time at home

MacKenzie: cutting her own hair after a bad haircut and rocking it

Resources Mentioned-

Books:

On the Bright Side

Movies:

Gone With the Wind

Find Melanie-

You can find Melanie on her website thebigmamablog.com and listen to her podcast, The Big Boo Cast. You can also follow her on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter.

Find MacKenzie-

You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! Join us on Patreon at Patreon.com/CultivatingtheLovely.

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On this week’s episode of Cultivating the Lovely, MacKenzie and Chelle continue their conversation about the enneagram. Today they are going to do a deep dive into the first three types on the enneagram, and they hope it will help you get a little more clarity. If you haven’t listened to last week’s episode on the resources Chelle and MacKenzie love and will refer back to today, you should definitely go do that first!

• Chelle and MacKenzie share a little more background info on the enneagram
• An overview of Type 1s, including core fears, core desires and more
  • Why MacKenzie and Chelle admire Type 1s
  • The common mistyping of Type 1s as 3s
  • Some famous people who may be Type 1s
• An overview of Type 2s, which is Chelle’s type
  • What MacKenzie loves about her Type 2 friends
  • Why being a Type 2 is uncomfortable for Chelle
  • Ways to love on the Type 2s in your life
  • Some famous characters who could be 2s

I think it is helpful to be able to look at the different types and see the similarities so that you can relate to one another.

MacKenzie Koppa

• An overview of Type 3s, which is MacKenzie’s type
  • How MacKenzie feels about being a Type 3
  • What Chelle loves about Type 3s
  • The special difficulty of being a Type 3 recovering from emotional abuse
  • Some famous characters who could be 3s

Resources Mentioned-

YourEnneagramCoach.com

Books:

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Mirror of the Soul by Alice Fryling

Becoming Us by Beth and Jeff McCord

The Sacred Enneagram by Chris Huertz

Find Chelle-

You can find Chelle Bruzas on Instagram.

Find MacKenzie-

You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! Join us on Patreon at Patreon.com/CultivatingtheLovely.

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Today on the CTL podcast, MacKenzie Koppa and Chelle Bruzas sit down and chat all about the enneagram. In this episode, MacKenzie and Chelle start covering the basics of the enneagram and how to find more resources to learn more yourself. Be sure to check back next week for more specific discussion about each of the enneagram types!

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• How Chelle and MacKenzie first figured out their own numbers
• Tips for finding your own enneagram number
• The benefit of having a close friend who balances our your strengths and weaknesses
• The power of the type songs from Ryan O’Neal from Sleeping At Last
• Using the memes from instagram to see what characteristics resonate with you

If you don’t have a strategy or a plan for how to love people well, then it doesn’t happen.

MacKenzie and Chelle

• Listening to podcasts to learn about all the different types
• Identify celebrities who are the same type as you are
• Looking at the triads to help narrow down your number
• Taking a test is a good place to go after you have learned some basics, and MacKenzie recommends Your Enneagram Coach
• Getting to know about the latent types that can affect how you react in certain circumstances
• How it can help to work with your teens to type themselves
• Find MacKenzie and Chelle’s favorite enneagram resources below

Resources Mentioned-

Affiliate links are used in this content.

Books:

The Road Back to You

Becoming Us

The Sacred Enneagram

Enneagram Type Journals

Self to Lose and Self to Find

Podcasts:

Sleeping at Last

CTLP Episode 131 – Enneagram Deep Dive with Beth McCord

Typology

That Sounds Fun

The Popcast

Sandals Church Enneagram Series

Websites:

Your Enneagram Coach

CrystalKnows.com

The Enneagram Institute

Instagram Accounts:

@EnneagramandCoffee

@EnneagramReposts

@GinaGomez.co

@YourEnneagramCoach

@LeannandMichelle

@LetteredbyHan_

Find Chelle-

You can find Chelle Bruzas on Instagram.

Find MacKenzie-

You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! Join us on Patreon at Patreon.com/CultivatingtheLovely.

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On the Cultivating the Lovely podcast this week, MacKenzie Koppa talks with Sasha K. Shillcut, M. D. about her new book Between Grit and Grace: The Art of Being Feminine and Formidable. Sasha is a cardiac anesthesiologist, a wife, a mother of 4 and founder of Brave Enough, a community for female professionals. This conversation is for ALL women, not just those who work in or out of the home, so regardless of your season of life, we hope you will get something out of this episode!

• Why Sasha started Brave Enough and her goals for helping women be their true selves
• MacKenzie’s perspective as a work at home and stay at home mom
• Why “leadership backlash” happens when women speak up and assert themselves
• Sasha pushes back on the idea that women are hardest on each other
• Our struggles as women in different arenas are actually remarkably similar
• Recognizing our deep need for friendship no matter what season we are in
• God has made us unique, so we don’t need to fall into the comparison trap

When you become brave enough to step into your own identity, the women around you oftentimes start to compare.

Sasha K. Shillcut, M. D.

• How the Brave Enough community grew out of Sasha’s own need to recover her femininity and find a tribe
• Learning to be both bold and gracious
• How Sasha made time to write a book while being a doctor and a wife and mother
• The importance of knowing yourself and your uniqueness
• Sasha’s advice for unplugging and being in solitude
• Cautions against having a martyr mentality
• Being a good model for your kids of taking care of yourself
• A typical day in Sasha’s life

Current Lovelies-

Sasha: enjoying using her brand new massage chair for some relaxation

MacKenzie: taking her kids and some friends bowling at the start of the weekend

Resources Mentioned-

Books:

Between Grit and Grace

Podcasts:

Alli Worthington

Jen Hatmaker

How I Built This

Movies:

Legally Blonde

Find Sasha-

You can find Dr. Shillcut on her website becomebraveenough.com and listen to her podcast, The Brave Enough Show. You can also follow her on Instagram, Pinterest, and Twitter.

Find MacKenzie-

You can find MacKenzie Koppa on Instagram, Facebook, and the CTL Facebook Group, of course! Join us on Patreon at Patreon.com/CultivatingtheLovely.

Thanks to Our Sponsors-

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